ADHD and the Couple

ADHD and the Couple is an interactive, fillable workbook designed to help couples understand how ADHD affects communication, trust, emotional regulation, follow-through, and daily partnership.

Many couples get stuck in the same painful cycle: one partner forgets, misses a deadline, or fails to follow through; the other becomes frustrated and critical; the ADHD partner becomes defensive, overwhelmed, or withdrawn; and both end up feeling misunderstood. This workbook helps couples slow that cycle down, understand what is driving it, and build practical ways to respond differently.

What you’ll find inside:

• Clear explanations of ADHD and executive function
• Guidance for both the ADHD and non-ADHD partner
• Exercises for identifying recurring conflict patterns
• Tools for working with time blindness and working-memory challenges
• Strategies for emotional regulation and conflict de-escalation
• A shared Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD) response plan
• Relationship-equity and responsibility exercises
• Shared calendar, task, and memory-system guidance
• A weekly couple check-in structure
• An ADHD Partnership Agreement
• Fillable worksheets that couples can complete directly on screen
• Bonus quick-reference tools for use during difficult moments

This workbook can be used in three ways:
Self-guided: Couples can work through the chapters together at their own pace.
Therapist-guided: It can be used alongside couples counseling as a structured supplement.
Maintenance: Couples can return to specific worksheets and tools when old patterns begin to reappear.

Bonus Companion Quiz Included

Your purchase also includes Are We Stuck in the ADHD Couple Cycle?, a 14-page self-discovery quiz for both partners. Each partner completes sections independently, compares results, and identifies the areas creating the most friction in the relationship.

This quiz explores patterns involving executive function, time blindness, emotional regulation, forgotten commitments, resentment, household responsibilities, recurring conflict, and emotional connection. Your highest-scoring areas point you directly to the workbook chapters most relevant to your relationship.

This quiz is designed for self-discovery and relationship education. It does not diagnose ADHD or replace professional evaluation.

ADHD and the Couple is designed to help both partners move away from blame and toward a shared understanding of what is actually happening in the relationship.

Created by Robert M. Tierney, M.Ed., LPC, Licensed Professional Counselor.

This resource is educational and is not a substitute for psychotherapy, diagnosis, medication management, or individualized mental health treatment.